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Now lets go ahead with the discussion of today’s topic – Building strong relationships between siblings.
It’s an exasperatingly complicated relationship. The relationship siblings have with each other is complex yet simple.
The day the second child comes into the family, your status changes from parents to arbitrators, peacekeepers, judges, referees and other similar roles.
Sibling rivalry is without doubt a big part of the growth and development of the children. And developing a strong connection between them becomes your primary responsibility.
“Siblings are the people we practice on, the people who teach us about fairness and cooperation and kindness and caring, quite often the hard way.”
– Pamela Dugdale
Discover Why Strengthening Sibling Bonds Matters
To build a strong, positive relationship among the siblings, you’ve to ensure that you create an environment of open communication, empathy, and mutual respect.
Each child needs to feel confident of your love and support, that you’ll not take sides or be partial. This is more so after the arrival of a new-born, when the older child feels threatened and displaced.
This confidence is what provides a sense of calm to the unrest in their minds. And once that’s sorted, they’ll be more generous and loving with the other siblings.
Strategies for Building Stronger Bonds
Encouraging Communication and Collaboration
Give them a patient hearing.
The cause of the conflict may have its roots in some other factors. Listening to them will help you understand that, and come to a more acceptable truce.
Creating Shared Experiences and Memories
Create happy memories with family outings and special traditions. Encourage the siblings to spend time together, without you, to allow them to bond.
These are small steps but needed to reinforce their confidence about their place in your life.
Teaching Conflict Resolution Skills
Ask them to resolve the matter themselves.
Of course you’re still the arbitrator. But by letting them figure out solutions you’re giving them a chance to resolve their differences by themselves. Guide them to set the outlines so they know what’s acceptable and what’s not.
Celebrating Individuality While Fostering Unity
Celebrate their individuality and never compare. Make sure you highlight their individual personalities.
Let them learn to accept each other as they are. The earlier you start, the better understanding they’ll develop of each other.
This won’t stop the conflicts but it will surely make it more manageable.
Nurturing Empathy and Understanding Among Siblings
Explain consequences.
When they come to you, or you enter the fray to prevent escalation, make sure you explain the consequences of their conflict.
The inevitable losses forces them to think and re-evaluate their current predicament.
Setting Clear Expectations and Boundaries
Discipline forms the foundation of acceptable behaviour.
Do not confuse discipline with punishment. You don’t want to create more animosity.
Discipline is about teaching what’s right. Use discipline for building character.
Praise in public, criticise in private.
It’s all about the power of positive reinforcement. Praising their good behaviour and letting everyone know, will motivate them to adhere to it.
But when you’ve to criticise the selfish behaviour, do it as a one-to-one; and certainly not in front of the other kids.
Conclusion
Sibling rivalry is as much about the relationship shared by the siblings, as it is about the family environment and values. A healthy family environment will ensure children grow up feeling secure and don’t have to assert their place or position.
Proactive parenting will help to foster healthy sibling relationships.
Encourage open communication, empathy, and conflict resolution skills to promote harmony and mutual support among siblings.
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